One day a farmer went out to his orchard and saw the apples on the apple trees looked quite unhealthy. So, he decided to spray them with miracle grow, but the apples continued to look the same. In desperation he picked all the apples so he did not have to look at them. Once the apples were picked the tree looked healthy again, but was it?
Many times in parenting we address the fruit on the trees of our children’s lives. They talk back and we tell them to stop talking disrespectful. When they are unkind we tell them to be kind. All we are doing is talking to fruit and telling the fruit to change. Unless we address the root of the issue, which is the heart, we will only be dealing with the symptoms. The first step in pursuing godly parenting is speaking to the heart of your child. Here are 3 truths about the heart:
- The heart is desperately wicked. (Jeremiah 17:9) “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?” In order to see any change we must understand that the answer is not found from within. Sickness only produces more sickness.
- The mouth exposes the heart. (Luke 6:45) “The good person out of the good treasure of his heart produces good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure produces evil, for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.” When we hear disrespectful words out of a child’s mouth, we are actually seeing a child who has an authority problem with God. The child is not willing to place themselves under the authority which God has placed in their lives.
- Only God can give your child a new heart. (Ezekiel 36:26) “And I will give you a new heart, and a new spirit I will put within you. And I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh and give you a heart of flesh.” This verse should drive us all to our knees in prayer, that God would do His perfect work in our hearts as well as within our children’s hearts.
Blog by Tim Yorgey