In Paul Tripp’s book, Age of Opportunity, A Biblical Guide to Parenting Teens, he talks about the importance of project parenting. Project Parenting-being focused, being purposeful, being goal-oriented in our day-by-day encounters with our teenagers and emphasizing certain themes. As parents, we live in a world that demands are attention every minute and our teens are continually on the run with school and church. If we are not intentional with our parenting, then we will parent out of reaction instead of pro-action.
The first step in project parenting is sitting down with your spouse and answering these questions for each of your children.
- Where is my child weak/strong?
- Where is my child susceptible to temptation?
- What are my child’s regular struggles?
- What are the areas of rebellion and resistance?
Remember not to try and handle everything you wrote down at once. The shotgun approach to parenting never works well. Handle things with patience and care. You are parenting, not driving cattle. Paul Tripp goes one to remind parents of 4 things to do after examining your children.
- Examine the lives of your child and see if your assessments are correct.
- Pray and ask God for wisdom.
- Consider what to focus on first.
- Remember that God is sovereign and He will give opportunities for you to deal with the issues.
Project Parenting finds its basis in Deuteronomy 6:4-9: 4 “Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. 5 You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. 6 And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. 7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. 8 You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes.9 You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.”
We are to teach the things of God diligently to our children. The word teach means-to cause to know. Teaching does not happen unless there is a plan and a focus on what needs to be done. May we teach our children to Know Christ and make Him known.
by Tim Yorgey